 Articles tagged: codependency
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Goal setting is something that many of us do or say we do. Being codependent setting goals can help you by helping you focus on yourself. Having a goal to focus on will help motivate you. Studies show that having a specific goal in mind and having it be more challenging led to a higher performance than having easy goals. It showed that people who write down their goals, have a plan in place and who take regular action are more positive and in sync with their true self. written by Lori Klauser
Not everybody is going to choose to live by the rules you live your life by. Everyone has choices. But when you see people living life to their choosing and who seem to not be in control, you want to be able to change their choices. written by Lori Klauser
When you are a reactionary you are reacting to other people including their feelings and their actions to those feelings. We also react to their problems and behaviors surrounding those problems. We then become uncomfortable with what is happening around us. There is a hidden panic within us. We become anxious and fearful. We either try to control the situation or ignore what is happening, which becomes denial. We become so uncomfortable with the situation we then turn it around to blame the other person.
written by Lori Klauser
Anger is a natural God-given emotion but it can at times get the best of us. It can be an essential device for basic survival, but we need to know how to recognize it so we can learn to convey it in a more appropriate manner than angry outbursts. Anger can be expressed in a healthy or in an unhealthy way. A study done in 1997 showed that 58% of anger occurances included shouting as a form of expressing emotion and fewer than 10% were made up of some form of physical aggression. written by Lori Klauser
Trust is an important element in every relationship. If trust isn't a priority within the relationship, there isn't much of a relationship. As codependents, we learned a lot of the traits we carry with us throughout our life in our early childhood. As children we are pretty adaptive to our circumstances, but when we see inconsistencies in our environment we tend to focus on them and we end up reacting instead of acting on them. We then have not only a lack of trust in others, but also in ourselves. Emotional trust may be missing in our relationships due to what we lived through as children. written by Lori Klauser
An enabler or rescuer is a person whose actions make it easy for someone with an addiction or who is dependent upon something to keep on in their poor behavior. The person you are aiding could be doing any of the following: drinking too much, abusing drugs, getting arrested, gambling, have an eating disorder or even working too much or not enough. written by Lori Klauser
To love yourself is important especially when you are in a codependent relationship. It is essential to your welfare and happiness. You need to learn to value yourself and your life. It is imperative that you honor the feelings you feel, but you should not base your self-worth on external sources. Your self-worth comes when you start looking within and being glad of who you are. written by Lori Klauser
When you come to see that you are codependent, you realize you are preoccupied with what the significant other person in your life does, where they are and that you are mostly focused on the happenings in their life and not your own. Maybe your mood influences the one you are focused on or vice-versa. If victims of codependency learn that what they say or do affects the outcome of how a situation plays out in their life, they can acquire significant ability to change the results they see happen. written by Lori Klauser
Detaching from a loved one with an addiction means regaining control of you by removing yourself from the emotional turmoil caused by the behaviors of the other. The first thing you must do is become aware that a problem exists. Detachment can be the key to healing. It is finding an emotional balance that will help that will help heal any emotional wounds you may have. written by Lori Klauser
Recovery from codependency means getting yourself and your life back. It is caring about you again. It is about reclaiming yourself and your life. Recovery is an internal agreement and a process that lasts a lifetime. Remember, yesterday’s choices are the consequences you live today. The choices are yours to make. In other words, if you don’t acknowledge that there is a problem in your life, you will never be able to change it. If you change your choices, your life will reflect the new choices.
written by Lori Klauser
Once you recognize that you are codependent, affirmations are one of the tools that will help you tremendously. Affirmations empower you to face the facts of your codependent life and to build a powerful future on your behalf. The positive thoughts you concentrate on will permeate to your subconsciousness and help to enable you to embrace those things you concentrate on. In short, they will help build the foundation of your reality and your future. written by Lori Klauser
When you come to realize that you are codependent, the feeling of shame might arise within you. You may feel that there is something wrong with you, that you are not good enough, that you have made large errors in judgment. Remember, you never have to apologize for who you are. You may have the need to feel the acceptance of others to feel secure within yourself. written by Lori Klauser
When you are feeling your lowest, I’m sure you can’t imagine one thing to be grateful for. When you think you are deprived, your feelings and thoughts revolve around what you don’t have. You may not believe you deserve for good things to happen to you. Being grateful and thinking along the lines of the good that is in your life brings more good to you. Admit it, even you are sick of hearing you whine. It gets you nowhere and it just brings more negative upon you. Learn how to feel gratitude. written by Lori Klauser
Have you ever wondered if it’s them that need to grow, change, be a better person and be more responsible or could it possibly be you? We are all responsible for our own lives. If you are living with a chemically dependent person, though, you may have taken on the role of caretaker. You may believe, or have been led to believe, that you are responsible for another’s feelings and what happens to them in life. Learn how to take care of yourself.
written by Lori Klauser
Codependency usually comes about as your response to another person’s chemical dependency. It revolves around your relationships with the people in your life. It involves the effects these people have on you. You, in turn, then try to affect them and their behaviors. As you begin to see them spiraling out of control, you end up trying to control their behavior. Learn how to set yourself free. written by Lori Klauser
A lot of the time as a codependent you get caught up in others lives. You become obsessed with another and you feel responsible for what happens in the others life. Your own life falls to the way side and you hardly notice. Your main concern sometimes is how your relationship appears to the outside world. It could be some time before you realize or even notice what has become of your inner world. You then realize the sacrifices you have made. As a codependent you don’t like to have anyone mad at you, so you continue to let things ride out as they are. written by Lori Klauser
When you come to realize that you are codependent, the feeling of shame might arise within you. You may feel that there is something wrong with you, that you are not good enough, that you have made large errors in judgment. Remember, you never have to apologize for who you are. You may have the need to feel the acceptance of others to feel secure within yourself. written by Lori Klauser
Have you ever wondered if it’s them that need to grow, change, be a better person and be more responsible or could it possibly be you? We are all responsible for our own lives. If you are living with a chemically dependent person, though, you may have taken on the role of caretaker. You may believe, or have been led to believe, that you are responsible for another’s feelings and what happens to them in life. Learn how to take care of yourself.
written by Lori Klauser
Once you recognize that you are codependent, affirmations are one of the tools that will help you tremendously. Affirmations empower you to face the facts of your codependent life and to build a powerful future on your behalf. The positive thoughts you concentrate on will permeate to your subconsciousness and help to enable you to embrace those things you concentrate on. In short, they will help build the foundation of your reality and your future. written by Lori Klauser
When you are feeling your lowest, I’m sure you can’t imagine one thing to be grateful for. When you think you are deprived, your feelings and thoughts revolve around what you don’t have. You may not believe you deserve for good things to happen to you. Being grateful and thinking along the lines of the good that is in your life brings more good to you. Admit it, even you are sick of hearing you whine. It gets you nowhere and it just brings more negative upon you. Learn how to feel gratitude. written by Lori Klauser
Codependency usually comes about as your response to another person’s chemical dependency. It revolves around your relationships with the people in your life. It involves the effects these people have on you. You, in turn, then try to affect them and their behaviors. As you begin to see them spiraling out of control, you end up trying to control their behavior. Learn how to set yourself free. written by Lori Klauser
Most of us had diaries when we were younger. We’d write about that cute boy in homeroom, vent our anger about our siblings, voice our feelings of unfairness about a grounding or restriction our parents enforced, or simply express our dreams for our future. Journaling is a powerful way that will help you through tough times. written by Lori Klauser
There is hope that recovering codependents can have healthy fulfilling relationships. Once you accept your codependency and start work on your own life and yourself, you can begin building or rebuilding relationships with others. written by Lori Klauser
Self-esteem occurs when you make a conscious decision to value ourselves and not see yourself as being less valuable than others. It comes from inside of us. You still feel other emotions such as guilt, anger and fear, but your self-esteem stays undamaged. Learn how to have healthy self-esteem. written by Lori Klauser
Codependents sometimes seem almost misplaced. You seem to have a hard time relating to whom you truly are and for that reason you have a hard time setting boundaries. You have a hard time saying no to people and you let people cross the line of what should be your boundaries and hurt you. Learn how to set those much needed boundaries. written by Jay Krunszyinsky Krunszyinsky
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