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Goal setting is something that many of us do or say we do. Being codependent setting goals can help you by helping you focus on yourself. Having a goal to focus on will help motivate you. Studies show that having a specific goal in mind and having it be more challenging led to a higher performance than having easy goals. It showed that people who write down their goals, have a plan in place and who take regular action are more positive and in sync with their true self. written by Lori Klauser
Not everybody is going to choose to live by the rules you live your life by. Everyone has choices. But when you see people living life to their choosing and who seem to not be in control, you want to be able to change their choices. written by Lori Klauser
When you are a reactionary you are reacting to other people including their feelings and their actions to those feelings. We also react to their problems and behaviors surrounding those problems. We then become uncomfortable with what is happening around us. There is a hidden panic within us. We become anxious and fearful. We either try to control the situation or ignore what is happening, which becomes denial. We become so uncomfortable with the situation we then turn it around to blame the other person.
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Anger is a natural God-given emotion but it can at times get the best of us. It can be an essential device for basic survival, but we need to know how to recognize it so we can learn to convey it in a more appropriate manner than angry outbursts. Anger can be expressed in a healthy or in an unhealthy way. A study done in 1997 showed that 58% of anger occurances included shouting as a form of expressing emotion and fewer than 10% were made up of some form of physical aggression. written by Lori Klauser
Trust is an important element in every relationship. If trust isn't a priority within the relationship, there isn't much of a relationship. As codependents, we learned a lot of the traits we carry with us throughout our life in our early childhood. As children we are pretty adaptive to our circumstances, but when we see inconsistencies in our environment we tend to focus on them and we end up reacting instead of acting on them. We then have not only a lack of trust in others, but also in ourselves. Emotional trust may be missing in our relationships due to what we lived through as children. written by Lori Klauser
An enabler or rescuer is a person whose actions make it easy for someone with an addiction or who is dependent upon something to keep on in their poor behavior. The person you are aiding could be doing any of the following: drinking too much, abusing drugs, getting arrested, gambling, have an eating disorder or even working too much or not enough. written by Lori Klauser
To love yourself is important especially when you are in a codependent relationship. It is essential to your welfare and happiness. You need to learn to value yourself and your life. It is imperative that you honor the feelings you feel, but you should not base your self-worth on external sources. Your self-worth comes when you start looking within and being glad of who you are. written by Lori Klauser
When you come to see that you are codependent, you realize you are preoccupied with what the significant other person in your life does, where they are and that you are mostly focused on the happenings in their life and not your own. Maybe your mood influences the one you are focused on or vice-versa. If victims of codependency learn that what they say or do affects the outcome of how a situation plays out in their life, they can acquire significant ability to change the results they see happen. written by Lori Klauser
Recovery from codependency means getting yourself and your life back. It is caring about you again. It is about reclaiming yourself and your life. Recovery is an internal agreement and a process that lasts a lifetime. Remember, yesterday’s choices are the consequences you live today. The choices are yours to make. In other words, if you don’t acknowledge that there is a problem in your life, you will never be able to change it. If you change your choices, your life will reflect the new choices.
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