What a Woman Wants - Her Point of View

I often hear men express exasperation about what a woman
wants and how to please her. To many men, a woman is like
a complicated piece of equipment that has no operators
manual! Not only that, but to a man, women are
unpredictable and the rules seem to be constantly changing.
If you are anything like most men, you might feel like,
what worked yesterday doesn't work today, so what on earth
am I supposed to do!

Well, fear not, there IS hope and I aim to share it with
you! First lets start with a wholehearted endorsement of
men. I really like men and think you guys are great and
have wonderful things to offer us women. I also
wholeheartedly embrace my femininity and I love women and
being a woman. And I believe that once we stop believing
in the battle of the sexes, that is when we will stop
experiencing it. Men and women mostly want the same
things, the big difference comes from HOW they want those
things delivered. Not only that but we are obviously
different and both sexes need to be appreciated in
different ways.

A quick fix solution to get through to a woman is this; pay
attention to her feelings, her actions, her body language
and most importantly the subtle unspoked cues she sends
to you. In one moment that might mean a kiss on the neck,
in another moment that could mean plenty of space and time
away from you! When a man can check his ego long enough
to realize she might just need to process her feelings or
have time to miss him, he will start to have more success
with women. The men who are most successful with women
are the ones that can give her something she wants without
her having to ask for it. I know that sounds crazy to most
men, you might be thinking "do I have to be a mind reader
or something?" NO. It is not as complicated as you might
think. It is just a matter of noticing her mood and doing
or saying something that lets her know that you care and
understand. But, and this is critical, you must do this
without appearing needy, clingy or manipulative. Really
strong men who respect themselves pay attention to
women and like women, and they respect woment too.

This seems more complicated than it is, and applies to
having great sex, just as much as it applies to getting
along outside of the sack. Look, sometimes a woman is
looking for a good time, much like a man. I sweat it's
true. Sometimes even a hot woman just wants to have a good
time. But what makes her want to have that good time with
guy #1 and not guy #2? It is the extra effort that guy #1
is willing to give her by noticing and respecting what she
wants and when. Not only that, but this doesn't mean you
have to offer her a marriage proposal (unless you want
to). And this is where a lot of guys get into trouble.
Being dishonest to get what you want won't work in the long
run and will only end up trashing your reputation. An
honest appreciation and expression of your attraction for
her (without overdoing it and sounding insencere) will go a
lot further than flashing a stack of cash or the keys to
your new Mazerati. Manipulative actions will only get you
the wrong sort of woman! If you are both after the same
thing, then great time to move forward. If not, then great,
time to move on and look for someone who is. And that is
how to give a woman what she wants. And believe me, both
of you will appreciate your extra efforts once you take it
to the bedroom.

Lisette Freedlander writes for Dr. Love. For more tips on
single dating and giving a woman what she wants visit Dr.
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