IMAGINE

                                                                                         

Wouldn’t it be great if we could meet someone we were crazy about, decided to become a couple and remained with them for life? It would be doubly better if we not only remained with them, but we’re able to live with them in peaceful bliss. Absent lies, doubt, trust issues and of course, no need to worry about infidelity on either part.

Why does it seem maintaining a “good and healthy” relationship is so darned difficult today? I hear this all the time!! I’ve heard it was easier in yesteryears, but I’m not too sure about that one.

Seems its rare today for both parties to be on the same playing field longer than a few months isn’t it? C’mon now people, don’t act as if it’s just me thinking this. I’m sure at least one of you have been in a relationship where you thought everything was honky dorrie then all of a sudden, you find out, say, your companion is cheating, or you’ve simply lost that luvin’ feeling regarding them. At some point they are less attentive and less interested in you and more interested in outside, er, delights.

How ‘bout this one? You catch your lover in the act, but you can’t bring yourself to cut em loose. How many of us have been in that situation hunh?

Better yet, you know you wanna be rid of Mr. or Mrs. Wonderful, but you are too jealous to leave em. You envision them living in an over abundance of happiness with someone else and you can’t stand the thought of it. Hence, you remain with em living in misery nonetheless. You know you wanna leave them, but you just can’t! How illogical is that???? And we call ourselves adults.

My daughter and I were discussing relationship issues one evening and she recounted a story to me about something she did after she and a former boyfriend called it quits. I think she said she pretended to be asleep when he called when in actuality; she was energetically bright-eyed, bushy tailed and watching the telephone demanding it to ring.

I told her adults much older than she, repeat some of the same crazy behaviors as when they were teenagers. She was (to my surprise), stunned! Her remark was, “I can’t believe older adults do that stuff. I only thought young people did those kinds of things”. I responded, (mind you she is twenty-years old); your age has little bearing upon a person’s decision to make a sound decision. A younger adult can make a great decision whereas an older adult might make a rotten one. A persons sense of rational coupled with good common sense are the deciding factors in making good choices. (I still blow that common sense mark every now and again though). Heck, you can live your entire life and still make bad and irresponsible decisions. Age has nothing to do with it! But you keep trying until you get it right.

Would our lives be much better, more fulfilling if we didn’t have to make choices at all? The right choices, in terms of the perfect mate or the perfect job, are already chosen for us. Our lives would be, I guess, effortless. Wouldn’t that be better? Or would it? To live your life not having to make choices. Never having to worry about if the decision you made was the right one or not. You never have to make any conclusions at all. Ever! IMAGINE that.

(c) 2006 By. C. V. Harris. All Rights Reserved.

About the author:
C. V. Harris writes about topics others would rather disregard. She recently completed her Memoir entitled, "Stubborn Stains" (which can be purchased at authorhouse.com), and she is working on her sophomore novel entitled, Ricochet. Visit Ms. Harris' Blog at onewriterwriting.blogspot.com, or send her an e-mail at info@onewriterwriting@hotmail.com.



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