Dealing With a Break Up: There You Go Again

                                                                                         

What's the deal? Why does it suddenly feel like people are giving you the brush off when it comes to dating? It's not like you are not a good catch. You have been told that on more than a few occasions. And its true. That's not a boastful statement as far you are concerned; just a plain old simple fact. Like water being wet.

And it is not just looks either. You're intelligent, witty a great conversationalist and pretty good listener. No doubt about it. You are all that and a bag of chips; maybe two.

Your family and friends agree. At least you think they do. It's not like they have been exactly returning your calls lately.

How come? Quit the snow job, you know full well why they have been avoiding you. This is not a recent development. To put it bluntly they are tired of hearing you go on and on ad nauseum about your ex.

They were okay in the beginning. You and your ex were quite the twosome. Everybody said so. The chemistry between the two of was something scientists study for years and still cannot figure out no matter how much grant money you give them.

At times it seemed like the two of you could read each others' thoughts. On more than a few occasions you completed each other's sentences. So when the break up came, it took quite a few people by surprise; no one more so than you.

And they were there for you. Not just because it was the right thing to do; that's a given. But they care about you deeply and naturally want the best for you. It may have been an inconvenience but in the beginning after the break up they didn't mind those phone calls from you at all kinds of odd hours.

However there is a limit to people's patience and you passed it about three exits ago. Every time you got together with your crew the subject of your ex would miraculously come up. The looks on their faces spoke volumes, "Oh no. Not again."

Yes again. If it wasn't you incessantly talking about your ex then you would mope around. You did not have to say a word. Your body language told them what was wrong.

As bad as all that was they could most likely handle that. What really got a few of your people visibly angry with you was you stating time and again that you were ready to start a new relationship.

Going on and on about your ex is not the way to prepare for a new relationship. A few of your compadres let you know that in no uncertain terms. Your response? "What is there problem?"

Their problem is a little thing called reality. if you want someone new find then act like it. If you want your ex back then that is okay too. Do the work necessary to see if you can win them back. But you cannot do both and watching you tie yourself up in knots is driving them crazy.

If it is over between you and your ex (and it is) then do everything within your power to let go. Treasure the time when you both went to the comedy club and laughed yourself hoarse. Or those quite walks in the park when the two of you were lost in thought and love. Nobody can take that away from you.

But constantly revisiting that relationship to friends, family, the cashier at the local supermarket and anybody else who happens to get within five feet of you is not going to cut it. Accept it and let go. Trust yourself as well as the future.

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Article written by Daryl Campbell at The Relationship Tip. Are you suffering from BYEA Syndrome?

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