Could Laying Your Problems on Your Kids Drive Them To Drugs?

                                                                                         

Parents often think their kids have easy lives. They talk about problems in front of the kids, argue in front of them, take their frustrations out on them inadvertently when they have a headache, are in a rush, or are angry about something else. Generally speaking, kids have to live with a lot of adult problems. But many parents have no idea that their kids actually take these things to heart. Nor do they know that it could lead them to take drugs.

Kids have responsibilities. They have to go to school (which is not always the great experience parents seem to think it is), do homework, figure out how to get along with people (including their parents), put up with being bullied or shunned, and cope with sometimes fickle and confusing young relationships.

It’s actually not easy for most kids, much to the surprise of many parents. And it’s more than enough for them to control and cope with, especially when you consider that they don’t have the life experience their parents have had. They’re doing this stuff for the first time. And they’re learning how to do it all as they go along.

Kids, whether they’re very young or of college age, depend on their parents for stability. They want to know that, as they get older, life, and the difficulties, confusions and emotions that go along with it, will be under their control.

When parents demonstrate otherwise, it creates quite an effect. The kids can lose hope for the future, and can also feel threatened in their current environment. If their parents are moody, argue, are inconsistent, or are continually having problems in life, the problems become theirs, too.

Instead of having to cope with only their own lives – for which they depend on their parents for guidance and help – they now have to cope with their parents' problems. And they want to help.

Usually, they have no way to do that. If parents are arguing, they have no experience as relationship counselors and can’t help. Nor would their parents accept that kind of help from them. If parents are having money problems, the kids usually have no way to help. If parents are moody, kids are usually powerless to do anything about it. They usually aren't even told the truth about why the parent is in that mood.

If you’ve ever wondered why kids drink alcohol and take drugs, why when someone offers them something they take it, why kids steal the pills in their parents’ medicine cabinets to help them cope, why there is a prescription drug addiction and abuse epidemic among kids and young adults, why there are so many young people who need the help of an addiction treatment center, have a look at your home life. How much do your kids actually have to cope with?

If you can remedy your own problems, or, at the very least, keep up a good front, that will go a long way in preventing your kids from taking drugs to handle their own stress.

About the author:
Gloria MacTaggart is a freelance writer that contributes articles on health.

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