Going Beyond Suffering From the Emotions

                                                                                         

Most of us suffer from our emotions. What is beyond that suffering? You can learn to enjoy the emotions. Rather than suffering from the emotions we can enjoy them. Having emotions is our unique ability as humans. So many of us are taught to suppress our emotions; that emotions are not good. But our emotions are a gift and we want to be able to experience them without attaching to them; to see them and at the same time, to not see them; to experience them and not to experience them at the same time, not to be trapped and entangled in them.

Suffering and enjoying the emotions are both attachment to the emotions. Learn that between attachment and non-attachment is happiness. When you experience an emotion you can begin to learn the other side of it, to find the balance between contradictions. If you only see one side or the other, enjoyment or suffering, then you are lying to yourself. In the short journey that is our life we must learn to embrace both sides of the coin.

Look beyond the two sides. Look beyond attachment. Achievement cannot be taught or explained. If we see achievement as a destination, a concept, it then becomes an attachment, and then it cannot be reached. Yet still we need to set our goals. So, set your goal and take your eyes away from the goal. Focus and pay attention to your actions, the quality of your action, not to the result. If you then make the effort without attachment to the results, then you feel the results without effort. Our effort becomes effortless as we focus on doing the best that we can in every action.

There are two sides to being a millionaire: spiritual and material. You can enjoy the material without becoming attached to and a slave of the material when you have achieved a spiritual breakthrough. If you have spiritual non-attachment then you are a spiritual millionaire. If you are not materially successful don't point the finger elsewhere, instead look at your spiritual journey and see what actions you are taking. What is the quality of your spiritual action? What is the quality of your virtue?

Spiritual bankruptcy affects more than just you; it affects your family for several generations. By the same token, once you improve the quality of your spiritual practice and bring it to the positive, you will have several prosperous, intelligent and wise generations. If you are not virtuous, and don't give enough to society or to yourself, it can result in a decrease in your descendants' intelligence, prosperity and wisdom.

Think about the quality of the action you've taken and are taking! Think, look, feel, and see both sides of reality. Don't get side tracked to one side of reality. You have a choice and all choices come from the wisdom level – choose wisely!!!

ACTIVITY: Think about a recent occasion when you felt that someone had offended you – either disrespected you or been rude or somehow not been nice. Pick a small occurrence, but one that made you feel angry or sad or hurt or jealous. Once you've identified that event, think about how that event could have had nothing to do with you – in other words, did the other person even know that what they did would offend you? How did that event reflect on the other person's feelings? Did it show that they were really scared or jealous or hurt? Were they even thinking about you when they did what they did? Did they know they had offended you? Flip the coin and look at the other side. Now think about how you may have put yourself in the role of victim while the other person had no idea and no intention of hurting you.

To free yourself from attachments you have to forgive yourself for being a victim. You have to tell yourself it's okay to not be the best. "I'm the one who has to walk my journey – not anyone else". Forgiveness comes with self-love. Self-love comes with self-respect and dignity. When you have self-respect then you have integrity. When you have integrity, then you are the best.

About the author:
Master Yun Xiang Tseng is a gifted speaker, teacher, healer and martial artist. He is President of Chi for Longevity, Inc. and The North American Wudang Taoist Association. For more information visit www.wudangtao.com.

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